Posted: Fri May 25 18:511. MONOGAMY ISN’T ALL OR NOTHING
For many of us, it would be great to get to a point where this was a problem.
Holly - Have you ever considered some of the online facilities such as Adult Matchmaker? They are great 'practice' for relationships that save face (and time!).
Holly it may be a little worse for some than you have said above. Point 2 you say the average bonk is 2m long, but 100 thrusts at 20cm is actually 20m. So instead of 6km of penis it is 60km!
Holly - arghh! I always was bad at math... will edit. Thanks! :)
What I mean is: there are a lot of bigger problems that hurt relationships before monogamy becomes a problem. I mean financial, career, children, tiredness, sickness, arguments ... If monogamy is a big problem then I'd consider the relationship a great success.
Holly - at least if monogamy is a problem, it means it's being discussed... er... hopefully!
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Holly - thanks Christine! Money and freedom provide options, and that's always a good thing! I'm about to send out an RSS feed link to try and make it easier for us all :)
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Holly - I always love feedback Lucrecia - feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Mainly because the person doesn't accept you how want them to, doesn't guarantee many get into‘s accept you of they've already.
Holly - true, but it is getting easier. Hang in there!
I totally hear you. Good for you for desiring a threesome. Good for you for exploring your sexuality. Good for you for expressing publicly. Good for you for being confident enough to do this. Good for you for being vulnerable' and dropping the culturally-taught male-strength' and replacing it with true strength'.Rock on.As for the issue in general, I feel I can add some clarity, see what you guys think:To me, men and woman are mirrors for each other.Two inter-twined polarities.If there is any pain being expressed by a feminine perspective, there is _guaranteed_ an equal, related pain matched in a masculine perspective.Women are tired of being hit on, creepily'; men are tired of being rejected, coldly'.Women are sick of physically abusive, bullying men; men are sick of emotionally abusive, bullying women.Women want men to give their time, attention, money; men want women to drop the entitlement.'This may be controversial, but to me:For every single cry of rape! there is an equal cry of Please God, allow me to feel some feminine love, intimacy, and support I've somehow learned that _the only way to get it_ is through physical force not developing my own authentic masuclinity. Most people talk about the gross, obvious, physical actions that are so terrible (violation, etc.), but very few talk about the drastic emotional damage and emptiness that is pervaded through out masculine culture.Focus on HEALING this emotional rift, automatically HEALS it's physical counterpart, and vice-versa.Sex is a two-way-energy. Any unease in one side is reflected and detectable in the other side.It may be unexpressed, we may be unaware, but it is there, and any over-focus on one side or the other, will exaggerate and inflame things.TLDR (too long; didn't read) Over-focus is a killer, for men or women ;)
Holly - wow - some amazing words here - thanks for sharing and caring.
slut shaming.' I don't know what to call it, but we feel it. We don't cizticrie you for it, because we [socially] can't, but we feel it. We definitely feel it. What's it feel like? It feels like a long, blunt, and dull hurt. Words like pig' and sex-obsessed' and useless' We feel nothing but love and desire for you, and we are shamed for it, and led to know that there is nothing special about us for it. It's like: another mouth to feed.' A woman's sexual desire is prized, but a man's redundant. It feels like being useless, a burden, a bother. It also makes us feel that you are not part of the sexual act or sexual desire. It makes us feel like we're being selfish when we desire you. Like: Oh, will she give me some sex? Like you aren't in this with us. Right or wrong, we identify with our desires and especially our sexual desires. They run like a lightening rod through our whole identity. And you don't care for us. Our identity is a burden, an obligation, or worse. By the social script, WE have to ask. But we know, going in, that you don't want us to, and will complain about it mercilessly. At several gathering I've gone to, women have complained and requested that hitting on' shouldn't be allowed. NIMBY. Go to a bar for that, not to the _______ club.' I feel like I my desires and my heart belong in a ghetto. Not just me men feel this way. We don't talk about it past a certain age though. We just numb.
Holly - sad words, but unfortunately they are true for many men. I hope things improve for you as the world starts to see sex as a pleasure instead of as a burden. Take care of you. xxx