4 Reasons Why Men 'Use' Women
Posted: Wed Jan 04 12:28
1. THE CUDDLE HORMONE
Oxytocin (the ‘cuddle hormone’ secreted during sex, intimacy and childbirth) often causes women to get attached to our lovers whether we like them or not. It’s the reason why (after sex) the ‘average’ dude often becomes man’s gift to female kind and it also helps us ‘put up with more shit’ when the children arrive and families need to be raised.
2, 'SAFE' GENES
Science is also reasonably unanimous that men compete with other males for female attention and that one of his greatest biological drives is to ensure his genes are ‘safe’. Given they are also hardwired to spread their seed at the same time as keeping 'the one at home' faithful, this feeling of safety is especially welcome after periods of high competition or self doubt.
3. FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS
Throw in the fact she might have money, own a pub or cooks a great hot breakfast and you have every reason why she can be treated like pond scum yet they both keep coming back for more.
4. SHE'S THE ONLY ONE WHO DOESN'T KNOW
Worse still is the fact that concerned friends and family are often privy to his casual view of the relationship and the so-called 'significant other' is not only a public mockery, she is also in a coupling from which people look the other way.
Being 'used' requires disclosure - not denial - because a relationship based on illusion is always a life lived as a lie.
on Thu Jan 12 15:56
Love your work, have done since first reading Sugar Babe in '08.
Holly - thanks so much Abi - I'm always very chuffed to hear from my readers xxx